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The Wedding Dress Disagreement

In November 2022, a woman shared her story on Reddit’s “Off My Chest” forum, revealing her six-year-long relationship with her fiancé, Ryan. Though she was primarily in charge of wedding planning, Ryan occasionally gave input. However, in October, Ryan made an unexpected suggestion: he thought she shouldn’t wear a white wedding dress. Initially puzzled, she dismissed it, thinking it was a creative preference. But after more reflection, she became “disgusted” by his stance, which made her reconsider their future.

The Dress Purchase Controversy

Two weeks before the wedding, she bought the white dress, which led to an intense argument. Ryan insisted on seeing it, but she declined, wanting to keep it a surprise. When she revealed the color was white, he reacted explosively, explaining that white should only be worn by brides who were “pure.” Ryan’s insistence on this belief confused her, especially since they had been together for years, and he was no longer a virgin himself. The situation escalated when Ryan sought support from his mother, but she sided with the bride, even pointing out Ryan’s lack of virginity.

Clashing Beliefs

Ryan’s mother’s intervention didn’t ease tensions. During a heated argument, Ryan broke down in tears but remained firm in his belief that her wearing white would deceive their guests, insisting that the standards for men were different. This belief about purity, especially regarding her past, left the bride questioning their relationship.

End of the Engagement

This conflict ultimately led the woman to end her engagement. In a later update, she shared her experience dating again after six years, unsure of what to wear for her first date, and noted that commenters suggested she wear red.